Choosing the Right Sex Toy: A Beginner’s Guide
Start where you are
Trying your first toy can feel exciting and a little overwhelming. There’s a lot out there, and most people don’t know where to start. This guide keeps things simple, answers real questions people have, and helps you feel confident choosing something that fits your comfort level and your body.
Whether you want something small and discreet or you’re ready to explore new sensations, you’ll find clear steps here to help you decide. And if you’re in Edmonton, you can get your new favourite toy delivered to your door in about an hour.
Step 1: Understand what type of stimulation you enjoy
The easiest way to choose a toy is to think about what already feels good.
Clitoral stimulation
Great for beginners. Most people with vulvas orgasm more easily from external stimulation, so this is where many start.
Examples you might like:
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mini wands
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finger vibes
Internal or blended stimulation
If you enjoy penetration or want to explore G-spot pressure, go for internal or dual-action toys.
Examples:
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rabbit vibes
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curved silicone dildos
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Anal stimulation
If you’re curious about back-door play, always choose beginner-friendly toys with a flared base for safety.
Examples:
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slim silicone plugs
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vibrating plugs
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beginner beads
Step 2: Choose the right size and shape
A lot of beginners worry about size. Here’s what matters.
For external toys
Size doesn’t affect pleasure. Go as small or compact as you want. Focus on vibration style and shape.
For internal toys
A smoother, slimmer shape is easier to start with. If you want G-spot pressure, look for a curved tip.
For anal toys
Start small. Choose silicone or stainless steel with a solid flared base.
Step 3: Pick the safest material
Quality matters. High-grade silicone is the gold standard because it’s body-safe, long-lasting, and easy to clean.
Other safe materials: stainless steel, borosilicate glass.
Avoid toys that feel sticky or rubbery or have no material transparency. Lower-grade materials can degrade, smell, or hold bacteria.
Step 4: Match your toy with the right lubricant
Using the right lube makes everything better, especially for beginners.
Silicone toys
Use a water-based lubricant.
Silicone lube can break down silicone toys, so avoid it here.
Glass and stainless steel toys
You can use water-based or silicone lubes.
Sensitive users
Look for glycerin-free and paraben-free formulas. Aloe-based lubes and organic blends tend to be gentler.
Step 5: Decide which features matter
You don’t need every feature, but a few can make a big difference.
Vibration types
• steady
• pulse
• wave
• suction
• dual motors
If you’re overwhelmed by modes, start with steady vibration.
Power source
Rechargeable toys are stronger, quieter, and more eco-friendly. Battery toys are cheaper but not as powerful.
Waterproof rating
Waterproof means you can use it in the bath and fully wash it.
Water-resistant means splash-safe but not submersible.
Step 6: Cleaning and care
Beginner toys are easy to maintain when you know what to do.
How to clean
• Wash with warm water and a gentle toy cleaner
• Avoid harsh soaps
• For silicone, stainless steel, and glass, a deeper clean is safe
• Always dry fully before storing
Storage
Keep it in a clean pouch away from dust and other toys.
Good care = longer life + consistent performance.
Step 7: Solve common worries (real answers for beginners)
I’m scared it will hurt
Start with small sizes, soft silicone, and lots of lube. Let sensation build slowly. Pain isn’t part of the process.
What if I can’t orgasm?
You’re not broken. Many people need blended stimulation, more warm-up, or stronger clitoral toys. Try suction, bullet vibes, or a wand for more intensity.
What if it’s too loud?
There are ultra-quiet toys designed for privacy. Suction toys and bullet vibes are some of the quietest.
What if my partner feels left out?
Use toys together. Remote-control toys, couple’s rings, and massage candles turn this into a team experience.
Step 8: When you want a recommendation
If you’re still unsure, your safest bet is to start with one of these categories:
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clitoral suction toys
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mini wand vibrators
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slim silicone G-spot vibrators
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beginner butt plugs
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wearable couple’s toys
These are the top beginner favorites for a reason. They’re easy to use, feel good right away, and don’t require experience.
Need it now?
If you’re in Edmonton, Mommys Toy Shop offers fast delivery so you can try something new tonight. If you’re anywhere else in Canada or the US, shipping is discreet every time.
If you want help choosing the perfect toy, message us. We’ll guide you without judgment and help you find something you’ll actually enjoy.
Bonus: Quick-start FAQ
What’s the best toy for a first timer?
A clitoral suction toy or small bullet vibrator.
What toy works for both partners?
Remote vibrators, couples rings, and wands.
Are glass toys safe?
Yes. They’re body-safe and great for temperature play.
What’s the best toy for someone sensitive or nervous?
Soft silicone with low settings. Suction toys on low are usually gentle.
Can men use vibrators too?
Absolutely. Wands, strokers, and prostate toys all work.
Ready to find your first toy?
If you want something simple, gentle, or beginner-friendly, we can point you in the right direction. Tell us what you’re curious about, and we’ll guide you toward a toy that actually fits your comfort level and your body.
If you're in Edmonton, you can get your new favourite toy delivered to your door in about an hour. Everywhere else in Canada or the US gets discreet, fast shipping.
Need help choosing? Message us anytime.