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Oral Sex…..what women and love, and what you should never do!!!!

Updated: May 30, 2023

Oral sex. Who doesn’t love it? I don’t personally know anyone who doesn’t. The question is what is it that takes oral sex from cringe worthy to “O” worthy?? I decided to find out the answer to that question from a woman’s perspective. So I went through my list of friends and decided on the ones I thought would be the most open to talking about it and I sent them a message. What were the techniques that they loved best? And what were the ones they hoped nobody would ever do to them again. So get ready to take notes because according to the women I polled these are the best and the worst techniques when it comes to the great art of cunnilingus.


DON’T

Just dive right in- Take the time to practice a little more foreplay before heading downtown. While we do have sex drives and get turned on we aren’t instantly ready to just take off our clothes, have a guy dive between our legs and expect us to cum right away. Take a bit of time to kiss and touch and play and get things going first. When you do decide to head down take the time to stimulate other areas besides just the clit. There is many erotic areas down there, not just one!



DO

Keep it light when starting out- The clitoris is extremely sensitive and while some women will prefer more pressure than others, when you first start out you don’t need to go crazy. Start slower and more gentle. Tease her a little. As she gets more aroused and closer to orgasm that’s when you want to be adding more pressure. Going in to hard and fast could actually be painful for some women so keep that in mind.


DO-

Try different techniques with your tongue- Using your flat tongue will cover more surface area. Which will especially be more pleasurable when starting out. You can use it to stimulate the labia also. A firmer tongue is great as there is more arousal. Try different speeds and take cues from her response as to what she enjoys best. Don’t just go up and down. Side to side is an option and in circles is definitely advisable. Varying speeds and pressure and direction is going to cause different types levels of stimulation that will be unique to each woman. Don’t just stick to one technique.

DON’T

Motorboating- Just don’t! Not ever! Not down there. Not our breasts. Not ever. This is NOT a turn on. This does NOT arouse us. Whoever told you it did lied to you. So please next time you think it might be a good idea……don’t do it!!


DO

Stay down there as long as it takes- There is a large number of women that can actually be unable to reach climax from oral sex simply because they are stressing out over being selfish or taking too long to orgasm. Don’t make your girl feel rushed. The reassurance that you’re there for her pleasure and will be there for as long as it takes can relieve the barrier preventing some women from being able to reach her climax.


DON’T

Ignore the obvious hints we give- We totally understand that not everyone is going to know what feels good for us and what doesn’t. But we give you obvious signals in the heat of the moment that will tell you exactly what does. So pay attention. Leaning one way or another, arching her back, clenching her legs against your head…..all not so subtle hints she is giving you so follow her lead. Pay attention to the way her breathing changes, her moans, the way her body responds to your techniques.


DON’T

Be oblivious to a woman’s anatomy- Trust me, we are well aware that our anatomy is different than a man’s, but please at least take the time to learn the basics if you want to be getting busy with us. It’s amazing how many men don’t even seem to know where the clitoris is. It’s not rocket science!! And considering studies show that approximately 75% of women cannot achieve orgasm without clitoral stimulation this is an important part to be able to locate!! If you really don’t know by now hit up google, cause you’ll be able to find out super quick.



DON’T

Assume we are all the same- Every woman is different. It’s important to remember that what works for one may not work for the next one. What one woman might love another may very well hate. Communication is helpful. Don’t go digging around her back door without checking with her first. Your ex girlfriend may have loved it but your new girl might not.


DO

Keep an open mind and be creative- Sex Toys are not a threat to your masculinity. Dildos and Vibrators can give your girl blended orgasms. Some women, but not all, will really get off on anal stimulation. Incorporating different temperature like an ice cube in your mouth or a breath mint can be fun. Spice it up with a different position. It seems most men think having the women on her back is the way to go or 69. Be creative! She will thank you later!


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DO

Communicate- Check with your partner before introducing something new. Ask her what she likes or what feels good or what doesn’t. Communication is key between partners. If you’re not sure if she is enjoying something there is a sure fire way too find out. Ask her!


DON’T

Be afraid to suck- Literally. Creating suction around the clit and using your tongue at the same time to lick is a great idea. There are toys that simulate this that are flying off the shelves for a reason. They feel amazing!! So keep in mind that sometimes when you’re down there it really is ok to suck…..as long as you’re doing it in a good way!!





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